Just a little Eyemusings.
This is this the blog of Eileen Doñiego de France: a freelance (mostly) fashion and lifestyle journalist, sometimes stylist, social media enthusiast, whiskey drinking, anti-social socialite w/geeky tendencies and a dash of bitchSASSness. Oh, and I am the former COO and a contributor to a magazine called WeTheUrban - if that suits your fancy. Graffiti Beach is also host to some of my interviews. We do that indie fashion thang.
My name is also spelled as Eileen Doniego de France, w/o the tilde. Search bots, this is for you!
The (500) Days of Summer attitude of “He wants you so bad” seems attractive to some women and men, especially younger ones, but I would encourage anyone who has a crush on my character to watch it again and examine how selfish he is. He develops a mildly delusional obsession over a girl onto whom he projects all these fantasies. He thinks she’ll give his life meaning because he doesn’t care about much else going on in his life. A lot of boys and girls think their lives will have meaning if they find a partner who wants nothing else in life but them. That’s not healthy. That’s falling in love with the idea of a person, not the actual person.
Apparently I am a Manic Pixie Dream Girl (according to my friends and their observations). I have an ever growing list of man-boys who longingly ask me out on dates because they are attracted to my “quirkiness” which they call part of my “charm.” Part of me enjoys the attention and figures that I’ll find someone in the sea of lonely-boys. The other part of me thinks, “Well shit. You think I’m your Summer and THE one. Uh-oh.”
But it’s not just the men who label MPDGs - it’s women too. There are many ladies out there who hate women like me (I see your Tumblr posts). They abhor anything and anyone that might resemble Zooey Deschanel and the characters she plays. So if I am quirky and say weird things, I am automatically labeled as MPGD and called vapid. If I display any sort of wonderment, I’m a ditz. Never mind that I do have a backstory and have issues of my own.
You see that’s where the problem is. It’s not just the fact that Manic Pixie Dream Girls exist in TV and film, but that people expect the characteristics to translate into real life. People forget the backstories, the depth, the reasoning, and even the skeletons in the closet. It’s more than just a parent’s divorce or pathological lying. There is more to a person than singular events and favorite music. But try telling that to a guy who instantly fell in love w/you just because you knew what “Triforce” was (OMG! Do you play Zelda?!). Try telling that to a girl who is jealous that she isn’t considered quirky because she isn’t conventionally attractive.
I honestly could go on and on about MPDGs (I could probably teach a college course) - but I think I will stop here. I just want people to know that I am not some stock character. Yes I am a free spirit who has her quirks, but that doesn’t make me shallow nor does it mean I am trying to capture this Manic Pixie Dream Girl image. It’s just how I have always been.
EDIT: I actually posted this video because I thought it was funny. I have a sense of humor about it too.
How appropriate that I start my #Fashion #MusicMonday w/the song “Money” by The Drums(thanks to Griefshare for the song suggestion). I’m not the most well off person, but what I lack in money when it comes to fashion, is style. When people ask me how I’ve gained my sense of style, I am honest and say “It’s a combination of low income and a laziness to finish my laundry.” True story of a self-employed fashionista.
“Money” is fairly straight forward: “I want to buy you something, but I don’t have any money.” It’s about someone who just wants to do something nice for someone they really care for. Life isn’t about materialism, but sometimes it feels good to put your cash towards someone you deem worthy of your cash flow. This feels especially true when you do not have any money yourself, and in this song - the sentiment of wanting to buy someone something is the best you can do. It’s a little sad, but still very sweet.
The outfit I imagined for this was very simple. I pictured almost a manic pixie dream girl (see definition here) - a Zooey Deschanel a la “500 Days of Summer” (I suppose it helps that The Drums sound a lot like The Smiths). A girl who isn’t overly trendy, but someone who goes for a classic and effortless style w/that slight bit of whimsy. Someone you’d easily fall in like with if not love. I went for a clean yet feminine look, pairing a crisp button down w/denim shorts to keep it light and casual. I wore topsiders in keeping w/the classic theme - and a wide brimmed teal fedora to add a pop of color and that whimsical characterisic I mentioned before. And, just to add that true element of the person I am, I added a studded bracelet. I, myself, have a weird attraction to edgy accessories.